Phases of a divorce storm

Just like the thick air before a storm, there's a palpable tension when something feels off in a relationship. Stress, confusion, and uncertainty weigh heavily on you, leaving you unsure whether to stay or leave. Emotions swirl around, making the future seem bleak. You just need clarity!

You might be thinking about:

- Where you'll live

- How you'll survive financially

- How you'll raise your child(ren)

- How to co-parent with your ex-partner

- How to deal with friends

- How to tell your family

While the comfort and support of family and friends are invaluable, their advice is based on their own experiences, which may not align with yours. You might want to reduce conflict, have a great co-parenting relationship, and achieve an amicable divorce, but a friend who had a terrible divorce might steer you in a different direction.

A divorce coach will work with you to help you make the best decisions based on your needs, goals, aspirations, and values.

 Going through a separation or divorce is like weathering a storm. Some days are calmer, while others are turbulent. Whether you received an unexpected message from your partner or initiated the separation yourself, the storm has begun. How you navigate it is crucial.

Just like a storm with high winds and rain, emotions during a divorce can be overwhelming. Feelings of denial, anxiety, shock, fear, anger, and frustration can make it difficult to make informed decisions about your future. There are the logistics of divorce: selling a home, filing for divorce, arranging child and spousal support, and creating separation or parenting agreements. 

Divorce brings challenges such as dealing with a high-conflict ex-partner, limited time with your children, exclusion from family events, and adjusting to living alone or with others.

This phase can be stressful and overwhelming, and without a thinking partner like a divorce coach to support and guide you, decisions made in high-emotion situations can have long-lasting impacts on you and your family.

The duration of a storm is unpredictable, but eventually, the clouds clear, and light shines through. This experience makes us more resilient and better prepared for future storms.

In the post-divorce transition phase, you might consider dating again, having to cope with your ex-partner dating someone new, redefine your identity as a single person or parent, make new friends, and establish new communication standards with your ex-partner and family. You may also face the unique challenges of blended families.

A divorce coach can be there every step of the way to help you shine bright.